™ When I was dating my wife, I visited her house to see her one time. It was late at night. It was one of those few times I would visit and meet her father at home. This time he was home and seated at the balcony. I went over to sit with him and we got talking. He asked me why I had come so late. "Are you the kind of man that keeps late nights?" He asked. I stuttered. "No no no, sir. I don't. As a matter of fact, I was home all through today?" "Why? You lost your Job?" "No sir. Today I am off duty. I just came to see her." "You mean you drove all the way from your house to see her by this time?" I chuckled and cleaned sweat from my face. "Yes, daddy. I missed her and she requested I come see her and say goodnight to her physically before I go to bed." He laughed. "So what happened to the phone call goodnight. Is she tired of that? Why does she want a physical goodnight." "Daddy I don't know o." "Okay. So have you said goodnight to her?" "She is helping Mama in the kitchen. She asked me to wait for some time." "Okay, she wants to give you my food for dinner. So she is asking you to wait got it to dorn ehn?" I laughed. "No sir. I think mummy engaged her." "You people have not said the truth. You have not told me the reason you came to my house by 9pm to just say goodnight to my daughter." "Sir that is the reason. True. I won't lie." He nodded his head and said okay. We talked about other things and while still talking my wife emerged from the kitchen cleaning hands. She asked me to stand so she could walk me to the car. Her father looked at her. "So you had to suffer a young man, to drive all the way to your house to say goodnight physically to you. Won't you consider fuel? Fuel is expensive these days." My wife chuckled. "Daddy... It's a punishment. He knows what he did." I said goodnight to her father and went to the kitchen to say goodnight to her mother. When we went out we stood in a dark spot, where I had parked my car. My wife told me that she invited me because she just wanted to kiss me physically before going to bed. I smiled. The moment I pulled her close to kiss her, the father cleared his throat. He was just standing behind us. "So this is the special goodnight. You want to kiss my daughter's lips eh? Have you paid?" I was scared. He told his daughter to go back inside and walked to me. "Praises, when you pay, the lips will be yours. For now, all you get is a hug." I nodded my head, thanked him, entered my car, and drove off. On our wedding day in church, he was there. The moment the Pastor told me to kiss the bride. I raised her veil and turned and looked at the father. The man was looking at me. I was looking at him. We both knew why we were looking at each other. I turned to his daughter and grabbed her close to me. Me and my wife that day spent over 4 minutes kissing. The church had to stand up to clap. After service, the father met me outside and said to me. "You think you can pepper me, shey. You kissed my daughter to pepper me." I laughed. He laughed too. #taghardtruth

WHY MODERN MARRIAGES ARE COLLAPSING: Why are men refusing to get married these days? Why are so many women who have it all do not have husbands even in their 40s? These are not accidents. These are as a result of REBELLION. When women abandon their feminine nature, they abandon the very thing that makes marriage attractive. Modern women are taught to act like men, compete with men, be equal to men and fight men. Now, women are confused as to why men no longer want to marry them. Men can't lead or protect women who see them as opponents and competitors. Men are not afraid of marriage. They are worried about fighting their rebellious wives in their own homes every day. Marriage is no longer seen as an act of love but as business by most women. If you make millions of cash, buy me cars and solves all my financial worries before I can be submissive to a man; then that's not submission but extortion!!! Submission is not earned. Submission is chosen. You choose to be submissive or not to be submissive. If a woman wants to get everything from a man before respecting him, then that's stupid because no man can give you everything you want. You can't have the benefits of marriage without the responsibilities. The responsibilities are submission, service, sacrifice and loyalty. You can't build a home where one partner is committed while the other is entitled. You can't see submission as slavery and expect a happy marriage. Submission becomes her enemy and no man marries an enemy. You can't build a future with a woman who hates orderliness. A man's marriage is the most expensive investment he will ever make. So, he wants to be sure he is investing rightly. Marriage with a rebellious woman is suicidal. No matter how much you put into it, it's destined to collapse. Modern men would prefer to die in peace alone than to stay with rebellious wives. Women claim to be proudly independent until it's time to pay the bills alone, raise the kids alone or die alone. Their funerals are filled with regrets. God did not design women to live and die alone. Independence was never the goal. Women are fighting for relevance and no man fights for relevance in his own home. In today's dating markets, too many women are not looking for love. They are looking for financial saviours. Men have come to realise all these and that's why they are not getting married as they used to.